Many families often ask me how to handle it when Mom or Dad ask the same questions over and over. I will share with you some of these "helpers" and please know, we are here to help! I have over 20 years experience working with seniors with Dementia and I've seen a few things over my years and I realize the struggle and heartache- hoping they may things a little easier for you...
Tips & Ideas For How To Handle Repetitive Questions
1.Live in their now
Because Dementia patients have lost some memory function, just reminding them that the world is different than they think will do no good!
2. Tell a therapeutic "fib"
Instead of trying to get Mom to understand that she shouldn't buy a grill for her bedroom or that she can't drive her car anymore, we just "fib" and say she already ordered the grill or that the car is in the shop. Because you loved one has a disease, it is kinder to lie and not upset him/her. We should think about it as “going along” with what she is feeling rather than trying to explain things she doesn't understand. Second off, lying is good when it will cause your loved one less pain or grief. Explaining that her sisters are dead or that she can't live alone anymore is more hurtful.
3. Distract them
Offer them something to drink or change the subject.
4. Make a whiteboard
Having everything written down on the whiteboard at least cuts off a little of the questions because she can look over and see what is going on.
5. A fancy clock!
Orientation to day, date and time can reduce a lot of anxiety. These are super cool and might work a treat… a fancy clock that shows the day, date and time! Whoo whoo!
Hope these help!
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